There is no good time for a divorce. It is a complicated and sensitive situation that challenges you as a person. There are two very different aspects of a divorce- the legal and the emotional. However, it is a battle for you to fight. It is imperative that your children are not put in the arena in place of you. As we approach the heart of summertime, your children should enjoy all the summer activities that are available to them.
One great way to have a fun-filled summer for the children is to have a summer budget for the family and plan on the activities ahead of time. Camps are a good example of summer activities that children will love and you would know the cost beforehand to plan. If sending your children off to camp isn’t something you desire, set your camping plans for you and your children. You can even alternate with your spouse to have adventures with the children separately. Not only will the children be having fun and making memories with a specific parent, but it will also give them an idea of what it is like to live apart from one parent for a period of time.
Weekend trips are also great adventures to get your children out of town for a little. Local fairs, amusement parks, the beach- they are all great ways to distract your children from the more serious situation that is happening in their lives. If you have a hard time getting the family together for weekend getaways, try signing the kids up for a summer activity, such as arts and crafts, sports, and music.
The most important thing to remember is to not let your children spend their summer caught in the middle of your divorce. Make sure you provide “family time” for the children and engage with them constantly. If possible, let them hold the reins of their summer and give them independence. Not only will that allow your children to have an unforgettable summer doing things they love to do, but it also helps them transition to being independent as their parents sort out the future of the family.