Your ex and you have ended your relationship and are in the middle of a divorce. Being single feels brand new once again and you’ll have to make decisions on your own, which is a good thing for some people. Your initial reaction may be to move as far away as possible to try to start a life without your ex’s interference. Or you might have the opposite thought and try to move next door to be close to your kids.
There’s a fine line between not being connected to your ex anymore and losing all contact completely. Be careful of the initial urge to move far away, if that’s happened to you. Let’s say you live in Irvine or Tustin. There are plenty of other cities in Orange County or Southern California that are within driving distance, yet you wouldn’t risk running into your ex. Distance really isn’t the issue. You could live as close as Newport Beach but never see your ex who lives in Costa Mesa if that’s your goal.
Stay close to your kids, but find the balance between living next door and moving across the country. You may never want to see your ex again, but that might not be in the best interest of you or your children.