You’ve heard the nightmarish divorce stories from your friends. You already feel hurt and alone and you aren’t interested in any more arguing. And, you aren’t certain if your spouse would be willing to consider a stress-free divorce via mediation.
Divorce mediation is an option that can help you avoid a divorce battle, save money and retain your dignity at the same time.
The most important thing to remember, however, is to hire a qualified family law attorney. This is especially true if you and your spouse have high income and diverse assets such as several properties.
Why? A California Certified Family Law Specialist specializes in family law has the education and experience in mediation and can steer you in the right direction.
Mediation, which is commonly used in civil cases, is increasingly being used in divorce disputes for several reasons.
Mediation is a private matter. All negotiations within the mediation framework are discreet as the court is not involved until the final agreement is settled. For wealthy individuals perhaps with complex business and property arrangements, the privacy aspect of mediation can be reason enough to do it.
Mediation may seem to cost more money upfront, but in the end, this most civil of discussions usually lead to a lower cost when it comes to legal’s fees. This is because mediation is more informal and can be a relatively quick process when compared to going through the normal family court channels.
Mediation does not work if you have two totally different points of view. It’s about exploring rather than intimidating
Mediation works best when both parties choose to NOT fight, but to come to resolutions amicably. With the help of lawyers and an arbiter (normally a retired family law judge), the couple can “bridge the gap” and come to resolutions quickly.
So, can you really convince your spouse that mediation is the proper solution?
Spouses may be swayed. Arm yourself with mediation information and by hiring a divorce attorney who specializes in mediation.
Divorce mediators act as neutrals, work as a team and mediate conflicts so it doesn’t reach the litigation stages for such issues as property division, custody matters, legal separations and estate issues.
Remember, the goal of mediation is to successfully settle disagreements before they become exorbitantly expensive and/or emotionally toxic. Mediations have the potential to stop the damage of divorce, to save money (by speeding up the usually long divorce process) and to keep your divorce for your eyes only. How can a stress-free divorce not be enticing to any husband?