We’ve written before about the many different ways to get over an ex post-divorce. If you googled the idea, you could probably find 100 different ways from thousands of people who have different ideas about how to move past a messy divorce. So instead of providing a long list, we thought we’d share just three things to consider if you’re recently divorced. Remember that divorce isn’t easy on anyone and you will find new hills to climb each day, but keep moving forward and it will get easier. [Read more…]
Does it seem like social media exists solely to stress you out and show you things that will make you sad? Facebook exists to connect the world, but connecting with your ex is probably the last thing you want to do when you’re going through a divorce or separation. Whether you’re just starting the divorce or whether it’s finalized, most people prefer to be as disconnected from their former husband or wife as possible. And Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc. make that difficult to do. [Read more…]
In this very digital age, divorce has become much more transparent. Couples even a few years ago could live their lives quite anonymously (can you say affair?) while stashing money on the side for any troubling possibility.
Not so much anymore. With all records going digital and with cameras on every smart phone, our lives are rather clear. So how do you protect yourself against any treachery and what is legal and what’s not when it comes to “spying” on your spouse?
Firstly, make certain to get some good legal advice from a reputable family law lawyer, especially if you are a high-income earner, investor or property owner. Some of the first steps towards a separation or divorce (and certainly in the case of a cheater and liar!) are critical when it comes to bank accounts, co-parenting and who is going to keep the house.
But the question remains: Is it legal to find a cheater whether it be an extramarital affair or “hidden” assets? [Read more…]
Now that you and your spouse have decided to split, it’s time to rethink how you use Facebook. Not only will the communications with your spouse, family, and friends change as a result of your divorce, but what you say could end up in the hands of your spouse’s divorce lawyer. Be careful!
Follow these five tips to make sure Facebook doesn’t hurt your relationships or your case.
Facebook Tip #1 – Practice Responsible Wall Posting
You may be upset, but venting on Facebook is inappropriate. Your comments don’t just insult your spouse, they could insult your children, family members, and friends who care about either one of you. To make matters worse, defaming posts or incriminating posts could negatively impact your divorce case. Printed screen shots of Facebook accounts can be used as evidence in a divorce case.
Facebook Tip #2 – Re-Evaluate Photos
Look back at your photo albums and remove photos that could be interpreted as inappropriate – even if the behavior was innocent. Also, be sure to “untag” yourself from photos published by friends.
Facebook Tip #3 – Revisit Your Friend List
It’s difficult to lose “couple friends” and other friends you made through your spouse. However, if you are going through a nasty divorce, it might be best to “un-friend” those you no longer consider a close friend as a result of the divorce. What you say and do can be held against you…
Facebook Tip #4 – Update Your “Info” Page
If you decide to enter into a new relationship before your divorce becomes final, leave the Relationship Status field blank.
Facebook Tip #5 -Update Your Privacy Settings
This tip is last, but it’s definitely not the least important tip. In fact, it’s one of the most important. Take the time to review your account settings and update your privacy choices. Even if you “un-friend” someone, he or she can still see your photos and posts unless you set your privacy settings so they can’t.