We’ve discussed in this blog whether you should or shouldn’t use mediation, what it is, how it can help, etc. So let’s assume that you’ve decided to go through with the process. Where do you start? Divorce Mediator Michelle Rozen recently shared these eight things you should do prior to your first mediation session, and we want to share them here with you: [Read more…]
That’s the million dollar question. Everyone going through a divorce needs to decide what process they’ll take. The decision you make may have a great impact on you and on your loved ones who will ultimately feel the pain of the divorce as well– such as your children. [Read more…]
We spend a lot of time discussing the intricacies of divorce, so this post is dedicated to the basics in California. Why? Because simply knowing the basics can save you time and money, and we’re all about that. [Read more…]
You’ve heard the nightmarish divorce stories from your women friends. You already feel hurt and alone and you aren’t interested in any more arguing. And, you aren’t certain if your husband would be willing to consider a stress-free divorce via mediation.
Here’s advice from a family law expert on how to avoid a divorce battle, save money and retain your dignity at the same time.
The most important thing to remember, however, is to hire a qualified family law attorney. This is especially true if you and your husband have high income and diverse assets such as several properties.
Why? A great divorce attorney — who only specializes in family law — usually has specialized education and experience in mediation and can steer you in the right direction.
Mediation, which is commonly used in civil cases, is increasingly being used in divorce disputes for several reasons. Firstly, mediation is a private matter. All negotiations within the mediation framework are discreet as the court is not involved until the final agreement is settled. For wealthy individuals perhaps with complex business and property arrangements, the privacy aspect of mediation can be reason enough to do it.
Secondly, mediation may seem to cost more money up front, but in the end, this most civil of discussions usually leads to a smaller bill when it comes to lawyer’s fees. This is because mediation is more informal and can be a relatively quick process when compared to going through the normal family court channels.
“Mediation does not work if you have two totally different points of view”
Mediation works best when both parties choose to NOT fight, but to come to resolutions amicably. With the help of lawyers and an arbiter (normally a retired family law judge), the couple can “bridge the gap” and come to resolutions quickly.
“It’s about exploring rather than intimidating”
So, can you really talk your husband into mediation?
Spouses may be swayed. Arm yourself with mediation information and by hiring a divorce attorney who specializes in mediation.
Through divorce mediation,we act as neutrals, work as a team and mediate conflicts so it doesn’t reach the litigation stages for such issues as property division, custody matters, legal separations and estate issues.
Remember, the goal of mediation is to successfully settle disagreements before they become exorbitantly expensive and/or emotionally toxic. Mediations have the potential to stop the damage of divorce, to save money (by speeding up the usually long divorce process) and to keep your divorce for your eyes only. How can a stress-free divorce not be enticing to any husband?
Still don’t understand the difference between Mediation vs. Litigation? Check out this cool infographic for the differences between having little control over your divorce in court and taking control of your own divorce through mediation.
Bohm Wildish Los Angeles Family Law
Divorce can take an incredible emotional toll on a couple, but the financial costs can be just as burdensome. As of 2005, the average divorce litigated in court cost $15,000 and took 18 months to resolve. Divorce is one of the most stressful events one can experience in life, and when you are paying legal bills for months or years after, it becomes an event that seems unending. Divorce mediation may be a solution that will work for you. In these cases, a divorce is usually resolved within 3 months and costs about $3000. This, of course, depends on the individual couple, but a mediator may help you save money and emotional tax as well. [Read more…]