If you’re a divorced parent, you understand the deep desires to protect your kids, ensure that they have a “normal” upbringing, and that co-parenting or single parenting won’t negatively affect them. It’s (or it should be) every parent’s wish to make sure their kids and taken care of. Especially if you were dragged through your parents’ messy divorce, you definitely want to avoid that with your kids. [Read more…]
Bohm Wildish: Divorce Advice – Here’s a taboo topic for women. You’ve been with the same man for five, ten, or thirty years and now you’re divorced. You’ll most likely start dating again. Depending on how quickly you want to take things, you’ll eventually start having sex again… most likely. You’ve only slept with one person for many years (probably) and this might make things a little difficult in the beginning, right? [Read more…]
Bohm Wildish: Orange County Family Law – People always say that we learn and grow the most when life isn’t easy. But is that true when dealing with something as awful as divorce? Absolutely. No one wants to divorce until they realize they really need to, and it can be devastating. But there is a silver lining. The best life lessons are often found what we experience unanticipated change or loss, such as a divorce or separation. [Read more…]
Bohm Wildish: Post Divorce Tips – We can all be our own biggest critic. When a big part of your life has changed or you’re in a transition period and can’t find someone to blame, many of us blame ourselves. This can be very unhealthy post-divorce or separation, and it can really hinder your recovery process and your relationships with your friends/family. You’ll start telling yourself stories that may not even be true, and you may certainly exaggerate what really went wrong in your marriage. You need to think positively. Here are four things that Christine Arylo believes you should NEVER tell yourself: [Read more…]
We see people every month from Orange County and Los Angeles, California looking to divorce who start fuming when speaking of their soon-to-be-ex. Divorce can be very trying, and it’s ok to be upset. But once the divorce is over, it’s time to move on. People tend to forget that holding onto to the hateful feelings you have toward your ex isn’t hurting him/her… it’s only affecting you. [Read more…]
For many people, this Christmas may be the first holiday time spent as a single person in many years. While the holidays are a great time of joy and happiness, they can also be a time of sadness and challenges for many. Joanie Winberg, CEO of the Association of Divorce from Women and Children recently shared these tips about surviving the holidays as a newly single person: [Read more…]
Have you come to the shocking conclusion that your wife is cheating on you? Yep, having a cheating wife can be perhaps the most emotionally traumatic time of your life. So, what do you do after you get over the “she really cheated on me” nuclear bomb goes off inside your mind?
If you are already certain about getting a divorce, the first thing to do is to hire a qualified family law lawyer. An attorney can give you the information you need to start the divorce process, including the best way to deal with bank accounts, moving out, alimony, child support, parenting arrangements and how to protect all your assets.
But what about your broken heart, your smashed soul and your bruised ego? It may be time to think about a “divorce support team,” which can feature not only a divorce lawyer but a family therapist (as well as a financial planner and perhaps a tax accountant).
Do you suspect your wife of cheating, but don’t have the proof yet? Some studies show women don’t cheat less than men, they are just better at lying about it (or men are fooled more easily).
Dr. David Holmes, who is a psychologist in the UK, says his 2009 study shows women are increasingly having affairs (15 percent) and have almost caught up to men (20 percent) in the percentage of married people who cheat.
‘The biggest difference is that women are much better at keeping their affairs secret,” says Holmes. “If you look at the studies into paternity, even conservative figures show that between eight and 15 per cent of children haven’t been fathered by the man who thinks he’s the biological parent.”
More than ever, spouses (and divorce lawyers) are using Facebook posts and Twitter tweets, texts and chat transcripts as evidence of adultery. But is it legal and how does it work? Check out this cool infographic with real-life divorce court examples here: Social Media Divorce Evidence.
Not sure how to start the divorce process? Here’s some divorce tips and advice from a family law attorney on how to get started: California Divorce Guide.
Even though statistics show divorcees can be more depressed and even die earlier than married individuals, there are ways to be happily divorced. Is it really possible to create a happy divorce? Yes!
One way to stay positive during this stressful time is to avoid going to divorce court at all. This is done by hiring a qualified divorce lawyer who then works with a mediator (usually a retired judge) to broker a smooth separation rather than an all-out battle.
Hiring a reputable lawyer and mediator can go a long way to showing your spouse that you want to avoid a divorce war at all costs. [Read more…]