HealthNewsDigest recently posted an article with tips regarding how to talk to your kids about divorce, and we thought we’d share the information here. Telling your kids that you will be splitting from your spouse is one of the hardest things a parent can do. Depending on the age of your children, they may not fully comprehend why it’s happening or how it involves them. [Read more…]
California Divorce and Family Law Firm – Bohm Wildish: There are few things harder about post-divorce or post-separation life than single or co-parenting. But if your marriage was slightly dysfunctional and your parenting style wasn’t working in the relationship, you may actually find single parenting refreshing. Either way, there will be challenges to not having your partner living under the same roof while you raise your children, but there are definitely perks as well. [Read more…]
Ask any parent and he/she will tell you that parenting is the hardest job the world. It’s also the most rewarding job at times, but there is not doubt that it’s not easy. So you can imagine, or you know, how tough it can be if you’re not with your husband or wife anymore. A divorce or separation is a challenging process and just when you think the hard part is over… co-parenting starts. You may begin to worry about your children in ways you haven’t before if they’re not under your roof. The good news is that research has shown that despite the potential negative effects of divorce on children, there are many positive ways children can grow from successful co-parenting– and that’s the goal. It’s ok to have a different style of parenting that your ex, but there are some key co-parenting elements that will help you be successful. Relationship coach Allison Pescosolido shares the following co-parenting tips: [Read more…]
The holidays demand a huge amount of time and effort, and they can be especially challenging for divorced couples. Every split couple with kids is in a slightly different situation and family dynamic, and there isn’t one easy answer for everyone. But Ann Blumenthal Jacobs, author of “Love for Grown Ups”, recently wrote an article for the Huffington Post as a step-by-step guide to surviving the holidays. We think Jacobs is right on the money with this divorce advice, and wanted to share it for anyone nervous about the next few weeks. [Read more…]
November is National Adoption Month, and we wanted to kick off our posts this month dealing with the topic of adoption while going through the divorce process. Jill Duffy outlines in an article in Dads Divorce the obstacle that divorce can be when trying to adopt a child. [Read more…]
Most people think of physical violence when they hear domestic violence or spousal abuse. Realize there are many other types of abuse, and a divorce case can take them all into consideration. There are eight types of domestic violence/abuse: physical, intimidation, child abuse, verbal and emotional, social isolation, religious, male/female privilege (diminishing the victim’s authority and preventing him/her from contributing to the relationship) and sexual abuse.
In limited cases, it may be possible to rebut the presumption that a perpetrator not have shared custody. However, it may be difficult to convince the judge. If he or she chooses to rebut, the court will consider the following:
- What’s in the best interest of the child(ren): to see the parent accused of domestic violence?
- What kind of behavior treatment program did the perpetrator complete? i.e., batterer’s counseling, alcohol and drug abuse, parenting, etc.
- Were there restraining orders? Did the perpetrator comply with them?
- Are there several other incidents of domestic violence, or was it an isolated incident?
Note: In California, if both parents are perpetrators of domestic violence, the statute does not apply.
It’s also important to remember that women can be perpetrators and men can be victims as well. No matter who is victim to spousal abuse of any kind, you do not have to stay in a relationship where this takes place. Get help right away if you’re experiencing abuse.
Many couples’ number one concern with divorce is the potential serious long-term effects on children when parents split.
An article in “Love Counsellor”, a relationship advice website, reports that fatherless homes account for 90% of homeless and runaway children, 85% of children with behavior problems, 85% of youths in prison, 71% of high school dropouts, 63% of youth suicides and well over 50% of teen mothers.
Behavioral problems are common among children in single-parent homes. This can be due to children feeling trapped by parental demands, robbed of their separate identity or the need to express anger regarding their situation. [Read more…]
It’s officially August and many families have been planning their vacation since the start of summer. A fun family trip in the heat of August can be a memorable bonding experience for many families, or it can be a child custody drama-filled horror. Summer trips can lead to fights with your ex about where and when you get the kids for a summer vacation.
Liz Mandrano offers these tips in The Huffington Post to avoid issues with a potentially great getaway:
Plan a Vacation Schedule: Work with your ex to thoroughly plan who gets the kids and where they’ll be taken. If your vacation is in August, you have less than a month to agree upon something…. so start talking now!
Use Open Communication: We all know that vacation arrangements don’t always go as planned. And while it may be fun to travel with your kids and just see where the wind takes you, that’s not a great idea if you’re in a sticky divorce/custody situation. If you’ve planned a vacation schedule with your ex and the plan changes, notify him/her as soon as possible. Using open communication will not only lead to a healthier relationship and easier future planning, but it may protect you from legal action if your ex-spouse decides to go down that road.
Consider Mediation: While it may be another expense to account for during vacation planning, a mediator can save you and your spouse a lot of stress and frustration. You and/or your spouse can hire a private mediator or a child-custody lawyer to resolve your dispute without going to court. It’s a fair and easy way to settle vacation child custody issues.
Set a Court Date: This is the last option for most families, but it might be necessary. If you’re worried about where your ex may take your kids, or you don’t want to end up in court for breaking an agreement, consider setting a court date before your trip. In separation and divorce agreements, the court often determines the amount of vacation time allowed, the amount of notice each parent must give, and travel arrangements and locations (especially for younger children).
August is a great month for a family vacation. But make sure your child custody agreements are in order so your vacation isn’t ruined! Visit the Divorce Guide for additional Divorce Advice.
Tensions often dramatically increase when going through an extremely disagreeable divorce. Called high-conflict divorce in the legal community, these hotly contested breakups can cause children much emotional rage, resentment and pain. However, there are a number of ways to end the family uproar and come to a more peaceful resolution.
No doubt, children pay a huge price for parental conflict, but what steps can be taken to minimize the hurt and pain during a highly-disputed divorce? After firstly hiring a qualified divorce attorney to give you first step solutions into the legal and financial challenges, here’s some more advice for those undertaking this traumatic life journey: [Read more…]
Increasingly, pets have become a bone of contention in divorce cases. Yes, cats, dogs and even exotic animal companions are more and more being treated like child custody cases when it comes to divorce.
So what’s the best way to resolve pet custody issues? A qualified family law lawyer can help negotiate “pet custody” when it comes to your divorce.
In fact, a 2006 study by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML) found a significant increase in “pet custody” cases since 2001. This means pets are increasingly becoming part of the divorce process because they are now viewed as part of the family much like children. [Read more…]