Pregnant and Divorcing

pregnantIt’s not rare for either spouse to have an emotional freak out when you get pregnant. This can often lead to divorce, marital issues or separation. As hard as it may seem, it might be best for you and your child in the long run. So what’s it like to be going through a divorce while pregnant? After getting pregnant and leaving her husband, one woman wrote this on Reddit, “I feel like the only person in the world dumb enough to proceed with a divorce while pregnant. I am not regretting my decision — his anger and lack of joy was too much for me. I just wish I could hear from others that have been through this and came out on the other end in once piece.”

Wonderful Reddit users shared advice with her that we think is brilliant, and we wanted to share it with you:

1) The uncertainty you feel is normal. Your future is uncertain, and your relationships are uncertain and it’s ok to be scared of the future. Take the time to be scared, but then decide you’re not going to let it get the best of you. You’re going to face that fear head on and make the most of every day.

2) You’ll be glad later on. If you can’t handle being pregnant through a marriage , you definitely can’t handle raising a child while being married to that person. So you’ll be glad that you put your child through the divorce while he/she is still in the womb, not when he/she is around to live through it.

3) You can co-parent successfully. You do NOT need a second parent to be good at this job. In fact, many single parents are better at parenting than both parents combined!

4) You’ll rebound. It may take a week, it may take 5 years… but you will bounce back and you’ll be stronger than ever. And you’ll want to date again. Let it happen in its own time.