Abandonment, excessive fighting, religious conflicts, irreconcilable differences and infidelity are all reasons couples divorce, and the list goes on. Whatever the reason, your life after divorce may become very challenging. You might feel lost, depressed, or insecure and it might be tough to be around friends in happy marriages.
Girlishh offers the following advice for life post-divorce:
Accept the Reality: As you can imagine, this is step one. You won’t let yourself be happy until you accept the fact that you are now single. Don’t waste your energy denying what’s happened so that you can move past the pain quickly.
Engage Yourself in Positive Activities: Being unproductive can hurt your self-image even more. Staying busy can keep your mind active and away from negative thoughts. For example, you can use your positive energy to explore ways to elevate your current income status.
Seek Good Counseling: Recovering from divorce is a grieving process for most people, and you might need expert guidance. A professional counselor can provide you guidance to ensure that you are on the right track. You could survive without a counselor, but it might be a much easier and quicker recovery process with the help of a professional.
Create a New Mental Picture of Yourself: Divorce is NOT the end of your life. The old picture of yourself is no longer accurate, but you can still create a new self-picture in which you succeed in your career and new/old relationships. Think of the other aspects in your life and do your best to make those as rewarding as they can be.
Spend Time with Yourself: Introspection and spending time with yourself is very underrated. It’s an important part of the recovery process. Find an inner peace and you’ll discover that you’re “ok” being with just you.
Make Plans for Your Future: You have years ahead of you. While you should live in the moment, think about what you want your future to look like and decide how you’ll get there. Don’t let your past define you. Allow yourself to shape your future.
Divorce is a roadblock, but it’s not the end of the road. Find more helpful post-divorce resources at the California Divorce Guide.