The court will review the parenting plan, but it’s up to you to reach agreements about the provisions and terms.
You may be able to negotiate a parenting plan when you attend court-ordered mediation, or you may need to involve your attorney in negotiating the terms that are important to you.
As you get started in the process of negotiating and developing a parenting plan, consider the following key issues:
1. I have my child(ren)’s best interests at heart more than the other parent because…
2. I am the better custodial parent because…
3. The other parent will testify that I am…
4. The areas where I am most confident in this custody proceeding are…
5. The areas where I am most concerned in this custody proceeding are…
Which type of arrangement do you want? Four types of parenting relationships after divorce (Ahrons):
1. Perfect Pals
2. Cooperative Colleagues (realistic and achievable; strive for this one)
3. Angry Associates
4. Fiery Foes
Decide on the details of the plan that cover these seven components: (goal is somewhere between love and hate)
3. Financial support
4. Managing routine care
5. Decision making authority
12 Tips for Developing a Cooperative Working Relationship with Your Ex:
1. Be businesslike-be pleasant, cordial, polite, etc.
2. Use teamwork
3. Focus on solutions
4. Put the needs of your children first
5. Take the high road
6. Do not undermine the efforts of your former mate
7. Do not put your child in the middle
8. Do not interfere in the rules or routine of the other household unless there is a serious problem
9. Learn to communicate without finding fault; problem solve together if possible to search for workable solutions
10. Put things in writing if necessary and be specific as to time, day, place, cost, etc.
11. Follow through on your agreements
12. Be a good role model for your child