What to Do When Your Wife Cheats on You

How do you cope with the emotional trauma of your wife’s affair? And what about the legal aspects of divorce?

Have you come to the shocking conclusion that your wife is cheating on you? Yep, having a cheating wife can be perhaps the most emotionally traumatic time of your life. So, what do you do after you get over the “she really cheated on me” nuclear bomb goes off inside your mind?

If you are already certain about getting a divorce, the first thing to do is to hire a qualified family law lawyer. An attorney can give you the information you need to start the divorce process, including the best way to deal with bank accounts, moving out, alimony, child support, parenting arrangements and how to protect all your assets.

But what about your broken heart, your smashed soul and your bruised ego? It may be time to think about a “divorce support team,” which can feature not only a divorce lawyer but a family therapist (as well as a financial planner and perhaps a tax accountant).

Do you suspect your wife of cheating, but don’t have the proof yet? Some studies show women don’t cheat less than men, they are just better at lying about it (or men are fooled more easily).

Dr. David Holmes, who is a psychologist in the UK, says his 2009 study shows women are increasingly having affairs (15 percent) and have almost caught up to men (20 percent) in the percentage of married people who cheat.

‘The biggest difference is that women are much better at keeping their affairs secret,” says Holmes. “If you look at the studies into paternity, even conservative figures show that between eight and 15 per cent of children haven’t been fathered by the man who thinks he’s the biological parent.”

More than ever, spouses (and divorce lawyers) are using Facebook posts and Twitter tweets, texts and chat transcripts as evidence of adultery. But is it legal and how does it work? Check out this cool infographic with real-life divorce court examples here: Social Media Divorce Evidence.

Not sure how to start the divorce process? Here’s some divorce tips and advice from a family law attorney on how to get started: California Divorce Guide.