Going through a divorce is difficult. Oftentimes, no matter what the circumstances are, one or both spouses will feel that they are entitled to more assets, more of the community money, or even feel that they have the rights to full custody of the children. Obviously, with tension and emotions running at extremely high levels at this time, thoughts like these are inevitable and are bound to spark a string of worrisome threats.
If this sounds like what you are going through, be sure to bring these matters and any of your other concerns to the attention of your divorce attorney who will be able to assure you that you should not be worried. Be aware that vindictive spouses will threaten things or make large proclamations without the advice or the proper knowledge of the law. In our divorce guide, we have compiled a list of the ten most common threats that a vindictive spouse and have followed each with reason or response as to why their claims are premature and/or false. Be sure to go ahead and read all ten as you really should be prepared mentally and emotionally for what may be a storm of falsities aimed directly at you.
In an effort to better prepare you for some of the most common threats, the top three are discussed in more detail below.
Three Most Common Threats Made by a Vindictive Spouse
- “I will tell the court what you’re doing and the judge will make sure that I get full custody of the children.”
Threats of this nature are usually a defense mechanism and a good sign that the spouse making the threat is concerned that they will not get custody. They will often make this type of threat as an attempt to get you worried enough about any of your actions to make you ease up or back off completely on any attempt to attain custody. Also, pay no attention when they threaten to illuminate the fact that you are taking anti-depressants, see a therapist, or enjoy a glass of wine or two every night. These claims have little or no bearing on how well equipped you are to raise a child and actually have nothing to do with the best interests of the children. - “You Can’t Take Money From Me.”
Ignore this claim completely. Along with eight other states, California embraces community property law. This means that you are entitled to half of anything that was acquired during the duration of your marriage. According to California legislature, this includes-“all property, real or personal, wherever situated, acquired by a married person during the marriage while domiciled in the state.” This includes all income that was earned during a marriage but excludes any properties that were acquired before marriage or properties that were acquired as a gift or from an inheritance. - “It’s My Way, or You Get No Money.”
Much like the previous threat, you should pay no attention to comments of this nature. These are often made by people that are used to being in control or that usually get whatever they want. However, when the law is involved, things work out a little differently and justice will be served. Take comfort in knowing that the law will make sure that you get everything that you have coming to you.
Let a Skilled and Experienced Divorce Attorney Offer Advice and Guidance
In high pressure situations where you are being threatened with losing many of the things that are extremely important to you, make sure that you have all of the information before you start to worry that those threats will have any actual impact on your life. Contact Bohm Wildish, a team of compassionate divorce attorneys that will listen to your concerns and dispel your mind of any false accusations. Call 1-877-615-6620 today and put your worries to rest.