Are You Truly Ready For Divorce?

From: Bruce Derman, Ph.D. and Wendy Gregson, MS, LMFT

Are you truly ready for divorce or are you just threatening? - Divorce is often threatened, especially in heated marital arguments for the following reasons:

1. Out of anger and frustration.
2. To gain power and control over the other person, and/or to get them to see things your way.
3. To finally be taken seriously that you want real change.
4. As a wake-up call that the marriage is faltering.

People who consistently threaten divorce lose credibility with themselves and their partner. If the person is not merely threatening, but is genuinely ready for a divorce, they can sustain the following thought in their own mind,

"That I wish to close a chapter of my life, because I am at peace with the fact that there is no more that I can do or give to this relationship." They will discuss this appropriately with their spouse without any blame.

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