The Do’s of Single Parenting During Divorce
- Encourage the kids to speak about their feelings.
- Tell your children that the divorce was not because of them.
- When your kids are angry, understand where they are coming from. Fear, anger, and sadness are common feelings for kids dealing with divorce.
- Explain what divorce means and tailor the message to their age and maturity.
- Keep your kids updated on changes and events, including a move, activities, and visits with family members.
- Continue to enforce rules that were in place before the split. It’s best to stay consistent, even if your spouse is not. A stable home environment is the goal.
- Make time for your kids every day, even if it’s only a phone call.
- Work with the other parent to protect the kids from the conflict.
- For children who have a hard time adjusting, seek the help of a family therapist.
Make time for your kids every day, even if it’s only a phone call.
The Don’ts of Single Parenting During Divorce
- Don’t blame anyone for the divorce.
- Don’t be negative; speak positively about your former spouse.
- Never ask your child to take sides with you.
- Don’t play games. Communicate with the other parent instead of asking your child to send messages.
- Don’t stress out your child. Kepp him or her protected from bad news they don’t need to hear.
- Don’t treat your child like a friend; be a parent.
- Don’t discourage your child from having a relationship with the other parent or step-parent.
- Don’t overpromise. Set realistic expectations for your kids that include spending time with them as much as possible.
- Don’t underestimate the importance of “I love you.” Tell them every day.